這封細緻入微的家書,是貴爲美國總統的歐巴馬寫給女兒的,沒有艱深難懂的大道理,全篇親切、自然、樸實話家常,平舖直述。
17 點教導具體而微,望女心切。
行文的語氣沒有作爲父親或者總統的“諄諄教導”,從“不要隨地丟垃圾”這類小事,到“
這是個由大家完全分享的世界,你所做的每件事都會影響到別人”的普世價值觀,歐巴馬都說得貼切、自然、優美。
特別列出中英文對照,希望對大家都能有所裨益。

歐巴馬寫給女兒的信:「停止再做的 17 件事」
 
Life is short.
It may feel like it takes forever sometimes, but the reality is that you live, and a short time later, you die.
It happens so quickly, many people don't even realize they had a life until it's already over.
生命如此短暫。
我們有時候覺得生命好像是永恆的,實際上雖然你現在活著,但過不了多久之後,就一定會死去。
人生只是轉眼一瞬間的事情,很多人到臨終前,才真正意識到這一生已經結束。
 
1、Stop Doubting Yourself  停止懷疑自己
If you don't believe in yourself, nobody will.
Success starts in your mind, and if all you're doing is putting yourself down and predicting failure, it'll become a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Instead of doubting yourself, think positively.
Not only will you be happier and more successful, you'll spread it to everyone around you.

如果你自己都不相信自己,那沒人會相信你。
成功源於你的思考,如果你所做的都是不斷地看扁自己,總是想著未來可能會失敗,這還真的會成爲現實的。
與其懷疑自己,不如積極的正向思考問題。
不僅會讓自己更加開心和成功,你還能够感染到在你周遭的人。

2、Stop Being Negative 停止負面思考
Now that you're done doubting yourself, stop doubting others.
You don't like when people are critical of you, so stop being critical of others.
Think about how you make other people feel – even if you have good intentions, people don't like hearing negativity.

現在你不要再懷疑自己了,也別再懷疑身邊的人。
你不希望被別人挑剔,那麽也不要再去挑剔身邊的人。
想想你的負面思考給別人帶來什麽樣的感受吧——即使你的出發點是好的,別人也一定不想聽到那麽多負面的事情呀。
 
3、Stop Procrastinating 停止拖拖拉拉
I don't feel like procrastinating right now– I'll do it tomorrow.
When you procrastinate, you remain stagnant.
Whatever you're putting off doesn't go away; resolve the problem, and move on.
You'll be much happier in the long run.
常會覺得我現在不想做,還是留到明天吧。
但一旦開始拖延,其實你已經停滯不前了。
你拖延的事情不會自己解决;所以立即著手解决問題,繼續前行吧。
從長遠角度來說,你因此會過得更加的快樂。
 
4、Stop Being Mean 不要故意作一些事
It's completely possible to step on someone's toes without meaning to – it happens all the time.
There's no need topile on by purposefully doing mean things, so make a conscious effort to stop being mean.
If someone wrongs you, let it go.
There's no need to seek vengeance unless that's the type of person you want to be.
無意間踩到別人腳趾的情况真的可能會發生——還經常發生。
但不要去處心積慮地故意做一些事情;所以要留意,不要讓別人誤會做那些事是故意的。
但如果有人誤會了你,就隨他們去吧。
沒必要去報復,除非你也想成爲同樣那一類的人。
 
5、Stop Eating Out 不要在外吃飯
Eating out is the biggest waste of money.
Every so often it's nice to treat yourself, but eating out for every meal is the quickest way to drain your bank account.
Learn how to cook at least a handful of foods you enjoy:
It'll save you money, keep you healthier, and occasionally impress people.
在外面吃飯真的非常非常的浪費錢。
也許每次對於你而言都是一次犒賞,但每頓都在外面吃反而是花光積蓄的最快方式。
至少也去學學怎麽做一些自己愛吃的菜:
既能省錢,還能讓你更健康,有時還會讓其他人眼睛一亮。
 
6、Stop Being Lazy 不要再偷懶
Lazy people are annoying – it's like pulling teeth getting them to do anything.
If I can't do something as simple as going to a movie with you without having to factor in an hour of convincing you to get your lazy but out of bed, I'd rather go alone.
People have enough trouble motivating themselves; don't make your friends and family waste their valuable energy motivating you as well.

懶人真的很招人煩——得像趕驢拉磨一樣逼著他們做事情。
如果我想跟你看一場電影,却不得不花一個小時來說服你起床,那我寧願一個人去看就算了。
大家給自己動力都還很累,就別讓朋友和家人浪費寶貴的精力再來給你動力了吧。
 
7、Stop Complaining 停止抱怨
We all have problems, and sometimes we need to vent to someone.
That's acceptable, but pay attention to how often you're venting.
We all love helping our friends and family, but when all you get from someone is negativity, it's easier to cut them off than help, especially if they're always complaining about the same things.

我們都會碰上麻煩事,有時候總想跟別人傾訴。
想找人傾訴可以理解,但不要總是一直不停得跟人抱怨。
我們都喜歡幫助朋友和家人,但如果從對方身上只會接收到負能量,那麽大家一定想離他遠遠的,特別是對方總是在反復抱怨同一件事的時候。
 
8、Stop Being Selfish 別再那麽自私
If you only think about yourself, you'll soon find yourself by yourself.
Stop for a minute and think about how your actions affect other people – did you take the last cup of coffee from the break room? Refill it!
Do you live with others?
Don't drink out the milk carton.
We share this world 100% of the time, so every action you take can affect other people.

如果你只考慮你自己,那麽很快你會發現身邊只剩下你自己。
花一分鐘想想你的行爲會給別人帶來什麽影響吧——你是不是從休息室拿走了最後一杯咖啡?別忘了再煮一壺呀!
你和其他人同住?
不要每次都喝光了所有牛奶從不回補。
這是個由大家完全分享的世界,你所做的每件事都會影響到別人。
 
9、Stop Wasting Time 別再浪費時間
I've said it before, and I'll say it again:
time is the most valuable resource we have.
Don't waste your time on unproductive things.
If you want to explore the world's dark corners, that's great.

I still associate with people who have not-so-kosher careers, but I don't hang out with those people at the expense of my own short- and long-term goals.
之前有說過,但我還要再說:
時間是我們擁有的最寶貴的資源。
不要把時間浪費在沒有意義的事情上面!
如果你想探索這個世界上黑暗的角落,很好。
我也認識一些沒有固定工作的自由職業者,但我不會以犧牲我自己寶貴的短期或長期目標為代價,去和他們出去玩樂。
 
10、Stop Making Promises 停止承諾
Always under-promise and over-deliver.
When you make a promise, you're adding responsibility to your plate that, despite all your best intentions, you may not be able to deliver on.
More often than not, your promise is an absolute (i.e.“I promise I'll always love you”), and only with deal in absolutes.
Instead of making a promise with your words, simply be there when people need you, and exceed their expectations with your actions.
總是做承諾,而又做不到。
每次做承諾都是在給自己增添責任,無論你的出發點有多好,往往你都很難完成所有的承諾。
大部分時候,你的承諾都太過絕對(就如“我發誓我永遠愛你”),也只能在某些絕對環境中才會實現。
與其用語言許下承諾,不如在別人需要你的時候出現,然後用行動超出對方對你的預期。
 
11、Stop Being a Pushover 停止軟弱
We live in a capitalistic society in which everyone's trying to sell us something.
Everyone's looking out for themselves in one way or another, and you need to do the same.
Stop putting yourself out because you're too shy to say no.

我們處於一個資本主義的社會,每個人都在試圖向我們推銷些什麽。
每個人都在用不同的方式關注自己,你也要這樣做。
別因爲太害羞、不敢說“不”而任人擺布。
 
12、Stop Listening to Haters 不要聽心中懷著恨意的人的話
No matter what you want to do in life, there's always someone around to tell you why it can't and won't work.
I can come up with millions of reasons Twitter won't work, and yet it's one of the most popular social media sites on the web.
My opinion didn't stop Twitter's success any more than it convinced Kobe Bryant to quit the NBA or Josh Hartnettto stop acting.
Why would you let someone's opinion stop you?

生活中當你想做些什麽時,周邊總會有人告訴你不要這麽做,沒有用的。
雖然我可以想出百萬條推特不實用的理由,但它還是網路上最流行的社交網站之一。
我的想法不會阻止推特的成功,就像你無法勸 科比 退出 NBA 或 喬什·哈奈特 不要當演員一樣,都毫無意義。
那麽你又爲什麽要讓別人的想法來阻止你的作為呢?
 
13、Stop Being Wasteful 停止浪費
You don't finish your meals, and away food instead.
You leave the faucet running when you brush your teeth, pouring precious water down the drain.
You drive places you could easily walk, burning gasoline (a non-renewable resource).
You are wasteful, and it needs to stop.
你飯沒吃完,然後拋棄掉剩下的食物。
刷牙的時候任由水龍頭的水流著,就這樣讓寶貴的水嘩嘩的流掉。
明明可以走得到的地方你偏要開車,耗著汽油(那是無法再生的資源)。
如果你浪費了,那就趕緊停止這些惡習。
 
14、Stop Littering 不要亂扔垃圾
The only thing I hate more than wasteful people are litter bugs.
Litter bugs are my least favorite bug, and there are more than you'd think.
If you've ever thrown even one piece of gum, paper, candy wrapper, cigarette butt, etc. on the ground, you're a disgusting litterbug, and you should be ashamed of yourself. There are over 7 billion people in the world– if each person only throws one“innocent”piece of garbage on the ground, that's 7 billion pieces of garbage littering a world in which nobody“did it”。

唯一讓我覺得比浪費的人更可惡的就是亂丟垃圾。
亂丟垃圾最讓我厭惡,而且厭惡程度比你想的多很多。
如果你曾扔過一塊口香糖、一張紙、糖果包裝、烟蒂,那麽你就是噁心亂丟垃圾的人;你應該自己感到羞愧。
世界上有超過 70 億的人——如果每個人都“不經意的”扔一點垃圾在地上,那麽世界上這 70 億件垃圾就會讓所有世人都不再在意了。
 
15、Stop Taking Everything Personally 別把所有的事情都放在心上
People get offended about the strangest things.
Take Kendrick Lamar's now-infamous verse on“Control”this summer:
he called out a list of a dozen rappers he thinks he's better than (and he's right).
The internet went crazy, and rappers all over the industry rushed to their mics to record a response.
The thing is, all K-Dot said is he's the best rapper.
Everyone took it personally, and that's exactly what he was going for.
The lesson to learn from this is that not everything is about you, and if you're easily upset, someone will use that to their advantage.

人們往往被一些莫名其妙的事情感到被侵犯。
就拿 Kendrick Lamar 這個夏天備受爭議的歌曲《Control》爲例:
他在歌詞中挑釁了一些他認爲比他弱的說唱歌手(的確如此)。
網路瘋傳,激起整個說唱界的歌手都蜂擁錄歌作爲回擊。
重點在於,所有的人都認爲自己是最好的說唱者。
每個人都更看重自己,這就是他的目的所在。
這件事教給我們的,無非就是不是所有的事都要圍著你轉,如果你是玻璃心,有人就會利用這一點。
 
16、Stop Talking 沉默是金
Sometimes it's best to just STFU –especially in relationships.
I can't even count how many times I created an issue that didn't need to be an issue simply because I opened my mouth.
Even if what you want to say is important, just shut up and ride it out.
You can saymore with your actions than words, and you can't listen when you're talking.

有時候沉默是金——特別在情侶關係裏。
我都記不清到底多少次因爲說錯話引發了本可以避免的爭端。
即使你想說的非常重要,那也閉嘴,自行消化。
你可以用行動證明一切,畢竟你自己在說話的時候是聽不見的。
 
17、Just Stop, and Breathe… 停一下,深呼吸
No matter what you're doing in life or how your day is going, there's always room to just stop for a moment and just breathe.
Try it right now to celebrate getting through this list of everything you're doing wrong.

無論你現在在幹什麽,這一天過得怎麽樣,你都需要留些空間給自己,好好停一下、深呼吸。
不如現在就試試,犒賞自己總算看完了這一長串的清單,挺過了一些錯事。
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